I think I figured it out tonight though. Poor Rosie got to suffer through me adjusting and adjusting until I felt her go round and through. More round and on the bit then I've ever had her before.
Guess what.. as soon as I did that my hands went quiet!!!! I had QUIET HANDS!
Once my hands were quiet she was so extremely responsive to my legs, my seat... I was actually posting smoothly, really moving out at the trot. It was awesome! I was smiling huge patting her on the neck and myself on the shoulder congratulating myself on finally getting it!
Now hopefully I can keep it long enough to show Jodie later in the week.