When in training whether it's one disipline or another in equestrain sports, or any other 'thing' one would train for that required learning a new skill we often use analogies that are familiar to us. For example -
I'm trotting around on Rosie, I'm listening to my trainer throw out tidbits
More outside rein
Give the inside rein
-- THERE! feel that?!? You're round - now let's get through --
Shoulders back and down
Elbows tied to your ribs
Push your heel through the center of Earth
Push a shopping cart with your hands
KABAM!!! I've NEVER felt such lifting in the shoulders, balanced, forward implusion from behind, zero weight in my hands from any horse I've ever ridden.
I love that analogy "Push a shopping cart" - it's something we all know how to do, it's muscle memory already. We just need to train our brain to push instead of resist or block. I have always struggled to keep my hands steady in Dressage. I believe this "push a shopping cart" is the missing piece, assuming one can keep all the other pieces in place. I'm still setting the boundry but with almost no resistance from me (with the exception of my rein length, I don't give that up) my hands became completely steady and I had 2000 pounds of soft, bendy, pony between my legs. It's one of those feelings that you strive for and when you achieve it you have to smile big and give a big ole "whoo hooo!"
The whole "marshmellow butt" thing - relax your gluteus maximus muscle to warmish marshmellow mushy, sticky state and ride from your core. This does two things - 1 - you miraculously stop bouncing around like a fish out of water in the saddle, and - 2 - the horse lifts it's core to meet your seat since there is no resistance from you there.
What are some analogies you or your trainer uses to help you "get it" ?