Sunday, July 18, 2010

The Circle is Complete

Yesterday as days go was pretty, well.... less then desired.  The highs were high and the lows were very low.

We started out with water on the floor in our finished basement... that a kid had tried to dry up.  No idea where it came from so assumed some one spilled something.   Started a load of laundry, left to go see Jim's mom and run errands.

While at the nursing home a resident came up to us and asked:

"How is Loretta doing?" she asked.
"Not well" Jim answered.

Then she said, "You know, I really miss your mother. We would sit together during dinner or events and talk. It was really nice - Most everyone else on this floor is either deaf or in la la land."

Jim and I had a good chuckle over that comment, but also touched us that Ms. Loretta had such a positive wonderful effect on everyone she met.

Came home to MORE water on the floor -- DAMN!  Found culprit - drain for kitchen and washing machine had come disconnected where it joined the main drain.  So trip to Home Depot where a plumbing specialist helped us with "patch kit".  So we patched it and floor is dry.  Will last a bit until we save for plumber..

Later in the evening I was ironing my son's Police Explorers polyester uniform pants when the phone rang..  it was Jim letting me know that his  mom had completed her journey.   I found out that polyester melts like plastic...   =(

Jim is doing ok, he has a sense of relief mixed with the grief from the loss of a parent.   He takes solace in knowing that his mom lived a very long, full life and this is how it's supposed to be.  Years were not robbed, and she enjoyed a fine game of Bingo until about 3 weeks ago.

Rest in peace Ms. Loretta you will be missed greatly.


  1. Aww I am so sorry. It's hard losing a member of the family that close, especially when they had to go into a nursing home. Even though they were the same person, they never really are unless they are in the home where so many memories were made.

  2. Sounds like she had a great, long life and was well-loved. Everyone deserves that. Sorry for your loss.

  3. Very sorry for your loss - she sounds like a lovely lady who had a very good life.

  4. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Ms. Loretta sounds like she had a long full life and was loved by many.

  5. Thank you everyone for your kind words and thoughts.


  6. What a tough day Jeni. So sorry for your family's loss. May fond memories help you heal.

  7. Sweet Jeni,
    Please hug your man for me and I am sending prayers for the is such a "time warp" to loose a parent.

    When my dad passed-though he was abusive, terribly so, to 3 girls. I had forgiven him years prior and we had begun a nice relationship..maybe it was his illness that inspired him ? All I know is...I was in a Time Warp for about a year...time meant nothing and seemed strange with no connection for me.

    Take it easy, glad the water situation is fixed and my man does his own laundry now..I have messed-up and with too many of his clothing items!Fine with me!

  8. Thank you Aurora and Kacy.

  9. My condolences to your family. It sounds like she had a loving family and a peaceful passing to the other side. God bless all of you.

  10. You guys had a rough day. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that wonderful memories sustain you two over the next hard days and weeks.

  11. So sorry about your MIL passing. My BIL said when his Mom died that she had moved on to a better home. It was how he dealt with it. Remember her as a good person and leave the last part of her days buried.

  12. I'm so sorry about your MIL :(

    I'm glad the leaking problem was fixable though.



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